Tuesday, August 18, 2009

TV In The Boudoir?

We have never had a tv in our bedroom. What? Ok, we had a tiny tv in our room in our old townhouse for a short period of time but we really never used it. It was too far from the kitchen. ha. jk. We always heard the christian teaching that the bedroom is for two things... s e x shhhh =) and sleep. But hello reality are you there?

...How about 1. sometimes feeding a baby, 2. reading, [we used to go upstairs early, i.e. 9pm, and just read before bed, we so need to get back to that! it felt so good.] 3. the occasional laptop, [occasional... this might be one of those "2 laptops" occasions...] 4. rushing around the room getting ready saying I have nothing to wear, complaining about my hair or my butt in these pants [real romantic], and 5. possibly munching on snacks stashed in a side table drawer or next to your side of the bed =)? [Not me, I'm just sayin'. Ok it's me, but it's been so long! In HS & college I had a stash... Cheez Its, chocolate, peanuts, I can't even remember now! I blocked it out like it never happened. I hate going to bed hungry. I just lay there and think about how hungry I am. And after the 11pm baby feeding (in bed=)), after my final energy and dinner is sucked out of me, sometimes I have a little munch. Sometimes. I try to just drink water but sometimes it's not enough. I know it's terrible. I used to try to trick myself by brushing my teeth. You can't ruin a good teeth brushin' by eating again. Ok, that didn't always work either. Back to the question at hand!]

We've contemplated getting a tv for a while though because wouldn't it be so nice to be able to cuddle and watch our shows and relax in bed... and there's a good deal on a perfect bedroom lcd tv=).

Do you have a tv in your bedroom? Good, bad... snacks? =)

41 comments:

Gooch Family said...

Yes that would be nice to have a TV in the room I think because sometimes I just want to lie down on my comfy bed and watch my shows with hubby! We don't have one though. We also read before bed and I love that. It lets us talk more w/o a TV which is nice. So I'm torn on that one. I feel like if we had a TV we wouldn't have our quiet time as much with each other. I also hate going to bed hungry and try to pull the "brush my teeth" trick, and your right, it doesn't always work, however it does help on some nights, haha.

Jill said...

Yep, we do...a nice ol' flatscreen. LOL! Comes in so handy when I am trying to get ready w/ Lucy (cartoons) and when I have a chance to get ready without Lucy (catch up on mommy shows) or the ocaissional time that one of us gets sick and retreats to the bedroom. It wa really bebficial when I had my tonsils out last yr and was bedridden for a week!

~Mrs. Guru~ said...

We do not have a tv in our bedroom. I kinda like it. We also have a no laptop rule in the bedroom.

Justin and Jenn said...

We have a TV in our bedroom and I love it! SOmetimes we know we're going to start a movie and fall asleep & this way we don't have to fall asleep only to wake up later to go to bed. Love it!

amywelborn said...

I've always heard it was good for you marraige to NOT have one in the bedroom, but I can't lie, we do and I love it! I love getting in bed at night and snuggling and watching a good show!

Shannon said...

We do have one in our room, but it's hardly ever turned on. It's there for the sole purpose of having two tvs.. Meaning, if hubs is watching cage fighting, I can go watch something of value on the other tv. LOL

Lucky in Love said...

I totally get the argument about not having one...and I do think that sometimes we would be more "intimate" should I say...if we didn't have one...but we like it.

We fall asleep to it every night and when we don't...it feels so dark and quiet. It's also nice for weekend mornings when I sleep in and Matt watches tv until I get up. I don't like to be in the bed alone :)

Rachel said...

We don't have a tv in our bedroom, and it's been a really good thing for us. We also have no laptops in the bedroom unless someone is sick and stuck in bed, which means that that person gets to break the rule.

Rachel H. said...

We don't, and I say bad idea! I always grew up not having one, and I was taught that the bedroom is for two things too, and I think it's really helpful for us. We definitely use that as our sanctuary and time for us together. Even sometimes on the couch downstairs before bed, I'm on the computer or watching TV, and we aren't focused on one another. In those few minutes before we fall asleep, we have the opportunity to say a few words to one another and recap our day without having the distraction of a TV. If we did have a TV, we likely wouldn't have that special time at the end of the day.

AO said...

No TV (yet), but we still have the crib in there (and our firstborn is...2.5?!) It takes a long time to disassemble, and it is too wide to enter any other room without disassembling...so...it will probably just be there until #2 arrives! lol

AO said...

Oh...and P.S.: In my early nursing weeks I had a basket with bananas and granola bars on my nightstand! Ain't no shame!

Though opening/eating a banana is generally a lot quieter than eating a granola bar... ;-p

Jen Clark said...

We've never had a TV in the bedroom and I've never really wanted one, which is surprising since we watch a lot of TV. I think it might have something to do with never having one in my room growing up. I don't believe in letting kids have TVs and computers in their room so maybe parents should follow the same rules to set an example? I don't know. I would maybe consider getting a TV for our room but I feel like once you get used to one, you'll always want to have one in your room.

Lora Lynn @ Vitafamiliae said...

When I was on bed rest, we put one in. We haven't taken it out yet. I'm still the only one who uses it. I go hide at nap time and watch old sit com reruns. Sometimes we will watch something together cuddled up in bed and that's lovely. We were both opposed to a TV in the bedroom before, but since we don't turn it on together unless we both really want to watch something (which is like, never, since Andrew hates tv), it's not that big of a deal. Make you some rules: we only turn it on if we're A - all alone in the room or B - we both have an agreed on show to watch. Then promise to turn it off at an agreed upon time.

You guys can handle it, I'm sure.

Lauren said...

We have a tv in our bedroom and for the most part it's only on in the mornings when I'm getting ready for work (hubby leaves before I do) and then at night right before we go to bed (I fall asleep before Hubby so he likes to get in his nightly Sportscenter update).

Randall @ Happy For This Moment said...

When we moved to St. Louis and installed the Dish we could have two outlets installed for free so we chose one in the living room and another in the den/office/guest room. I thought I'd miss it in the bedroom but I really like it helps to have a place just for sleep and relaxing and other stuff :)

The only time I've ever missed it was when I was sick and all I wanted to do was lay in bed and watch movies. But I did it on the couch!

Suzette said...

Okay - so I had to read all of your comments! People definintely have an opinion on this.. Our premarital counselor advised us for the first year NOT to have a tv in your bedroom.... I totally get why it's a bad idea, but we are such tv junkies that we will watch too much no matter where the tv is.. We just have to make a concious decision to turn them all off for 'us' time! I LOVE watching Jimmy Kimmel and laughing together before we go to sleep! Plus, I iron and do laundry in my bedroom so it's really nice to have!

Kim, Steve, Madison, & Jackson said...

We have one in the bedroom. My 23 month old daughter sleeps in our bed and my 11 week old son sleeps next to our bed. We all go lay down at 8 and watch tv and unwind before bed. I also watch it when hubby is watching sports in the front room. We are getting a tread mill and are going to put it in the bedroom so I will run and watch the tube also. As long as you can turn it off to spend time together than I don't see the problem.

Rebecca Jo said...

We are such a TV addict family - we have a TV in EVERY room.... seriously!!! Except the bathroom...

but I was raised with a tv in my bedroom & now, I have to have it on when I get ready for bed... I enjoy Saturday mornings just laying in bed watching TV too... that's the BEST!

Rachel said...

Yes we do!! We love to watch movies in bed and just chill out together with a late night talk show before bed. It is our own retreat after the kids go to bed! LOVE IT! Plus being pregnant, MANY a nights I have woken up and needed to watch a little tv when I could not sleep...

Megan said...

We do have a TV in the bedroom, mainly because David's "big tv" is out in the living room, and if there's a show on that I want to watch i'll just head back to the bedroom. If we're both watching a show before bed (dog the bounty hunter, what??) whenever the first says, "ok, i'm ready for bed" the TV goes off. It hasn't hindered any sleep or ...the other... that is supposed to happen in the bedroom :-)

THE Stephanie said...

Oh girl! I couldn't live without our TV in the bedroom. We never get to watch our shows until the kids go to bed, so we always snuggle (after sex of course... LOL) and watch our shows. I'd rather lay in bed by that time than go out to the couch.

The Pink Chick said...

We have a tv in our bedroom, and I love it. I go to bed early and Michael is a night owl, so he will cuddle with me and watch tv while I sleep.

SassyEngineer said...

We don't have one in our bedroom, and I don't think we plan on adding one anytime soon.

I wanted to at first because I was used to having one when I was single, but now I'm glad we don't. I know I get much better sleep when it is quiet and dark versus the TV sound and light. It is our oasis from the digital age (no computers in bed either, unless hubby is showing me something quickly and I'm already in bed).

We do read together in bed, but I feel like that is a little more intimate because we'll talk about what we are reading versus just watching TV.

I don't think either way is right or wrong, and from my sister's viewpoint (she is a doctor) she said that you should only stop watching TV or other things in bed if it is negatively affecting your s*x life.

I think someday we might have one again, but I want it to be hidden away in an armoire so that it doesn't become an obtrusive item.

Newlywed Next Door said...

No TV, no food, no laptops. Just books, magazines and water. I'm sure that might change if we bought a bigger house and our living room wasn't 20 feet away! Ha!

You know whats funny is my husband was NEVER allowed in his parents bedroom and I hung out in my parent's bedroom all time b/c they had a TV. Ha!

Tara Gibson said...

yes we have a tv in our room. But we only use it when I want to watch my girly shows and drew doesnt haha

Gwen said...

Right now we have a television in every room but the bedrooms (well and not the kitchen or bathroom ~ LOL). There is plenty of room for everyone to watch their shows if needed but most of the time we huddle in our small back bedroom. I have to be in complete dark and silence to sleep so I don't like the television in the room idea but I know when we finally get a bigger more permanent home we will. However, the hubs will have to learn to sleep without the noise. :) XOXO

Amber said...

We've decided not to have one in our bedroom (for now at least). The Mr. has trouble falling asleep sometimes and he would just sit there and watch tv all night long if we had one, keeping me awake too in the process. But I think it's fine if it works for you two!

Molly said...

We don't have one, and I always said I never would. When Cooper was really little and I was nursing him, a TV would have been totally fabulous. Now too, it would be nice if he could sit and watch it in my room while I shower. Too many downsides though.

Lane said...

We have one in our bedroom but it rarely is turned on anymore. I used to watch it every night before bed, but since I've been pregnant I just go to bed and crash. But I have a feeling that when the baby gets here that will change again...late night feedings!

Brittany Ann said...

We do, but we don't watch TV/cable. We just watch movies and DVDs on it. That way, we only use it if we really need the entertainment, noise, etc.

d.a.r. said...

We have one, but as soon as we move this fall/winter it is going bye-bye :)

ARK said...

Oh you make me laugh so hard sometimes because I can just relate to you so much! I love how you just tell it like it is:)

Yes, we do have a flat screen in our room but have it hidden in our armoire so we don't have to watch or see it all the time. We mostly rent movies on it since there really is only 2 shows we sometimes watch as a couple. ( I grew up with very limited tv watching myself, my parents were pretty strict about that) We pretty much just watched things as a family on the weekend. So I am not a big tv watcher. Although, I must admit ever since I got preggo with number 2 my daughter has watched way more tv than she has since she was born, but it has been nice because she can watch and I can get some rest while preggo. Ofcourse, very soon we hope to go back to the "earning tv time" which really kept tv to a minimum and gave her incentives to behave, do chores, etc:)I never heard of the bedroom for sex and rest only but think it sounds like a great idea:) At the same time, I think as long as you aren't tv addicts and have boundaries, a tv in your room is fine:)

Jenny.Lee said...

We don't have a TV but we do watch movies on Zane's laptop. I think it completely depends on the couple as to whether or not it's a good/bad thing.

Saskia said...

We don't have one in our bedroom. We like it that way... makes the room peaceful & calm. I like that the room has a really specific use (or two!!!)

Saskia x

PS beach bag - great call - why do I always forget that?! And hairclips too... just had over 4 inches cut off my hair so it will be much easier in the sea!

a H.I.T. said...

We love having a t.v. in our room. We watch movies together, cuddle, and it's the perfect place to spend time together.

In this wonderful life... said...

We do have a TV in our room! There are tons of things to do in the bedroom. Just have to weigh the priorities in which you want them to go! I love waking up on a Saturday morning and watching some TV. Hubby will sleep in and I'll watch tv and just look at him :)

Lindsay said...

LOL - you crack me up. I vote YES on the TV. Personally I rarely watch it, but boy it makes for:

a)great cuddle time with the kids in the morning if you want just a "little bit" more sleep you can switch on a cartoon and snuggle away!

b) great backrub times!! All I have to say is "babe - will you rub my back/feet/whatever while you watch ESPN" and he'll rub for a LONG time :-)

So see - mostly selfish reasons, but hey - it works!

Perfectly Imperfect said...

I used to be a HUGE advocate for not having a tv in the bedroom. But then I realized, we hardly ever watch it anyway. We put one in there after I had surgery a while back so I could lay in bed and watch tv and it's still there. Sometimes we curl up in bed and watch a movie, but usually it only gets used if I really want to watch something the hubs doesn't. I love it now...

The Farmer Files said...

For the first time in 11 years we do not have a TV in our bedroom. And I don't see that is has affected us one way or another. Because we are absolute gluttons, we have a 120" screen in our upstairs family room right next to our bedroom. When J1 was 2.5 and I had a newborn, and sometimes I could not trust him not to wake up the new baby (just from romping around, and in HI, our house had NO insulation because homes in HI do not) I would put on Seasame Street so he would stay put in our bedroom and I could take a shower with the door closed. Ohhh yes, another thing, when you are the mom to only boys...instilling privacy!!! So anyway...I like to take me some nice 20 to 30 min showers in the post partum time...so I totally found a TV in our bedroom was worth it. And...we never really watched TV too much at night together, anyway. ;) It was more for me than for "us" when it was in our bedroom.

Mrs. Buck said...

I'm anti TV in the bedroom for our household. We had one for about ayear and when we moved into this new house I made it clear that I wasnt a big fan. It was distracting from both sleeping and the sex and kept us up late watching trashy shows. I find we're much better off DVRing anything we want to see that comes on after our bedtime - though i do miss watching the news as I get ready in the morning.

Renee said...

No tv in our bedroom.


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